Making and Keeping Friends
Our whole-body brain includes many different kinds of intelligence. Think of it as your inner soul team or family. Each kind of intelligence has a different job to do. Some times these intelligences work together, sometimes they fight. Our body-sexual intelligence asks, who is a good partner for me or my children What does my body need to heal Our social intelligence asks, how do I make friends and function in groups
Martial art is a Chinese national sport. It is also to be reassured by all people of the world. Martial arts have both attack and defence, and these movements need to be placed in sequence to create a style. Sex, age, location, seasons or weapons do not govern martial art. The purpose of martial art is to toughen your bones and muscles for defence, and to improve your intelligence and mental attitude. Because peoples of the world are now exchanging in cultures and martial artists have similar interests, friendships are being formed of mutual benefit to all concerned. I am one of the direct descendants to inherit Yang style T'ai chi. I have written a book of 48 techniques and I am also a Chinese T'ai chi champion. Mr. Montaigue and I have built a very good friendship because of our love of T'ai chi, and we are both close to the same age. We both have beards and curly hair and have both worked on films. Our friendship is not only on a personal basis I would hope for it to cement a...
It's not easy to forbear when confronted with problems. Some say, If you don't hit back when beaten, don't talk back when slandered, or if you forbear even when you lose face in front of your family, relatives, and good friends, haven't you turned into Ah Q 53 I say that if you act normal in all regards, if your intelligence is no less than that of others, and if it's only that you have taken lightly the matter of personal gain, no one is going to say you are foolish. Being able to forbear is not weakness, and neither is it being like Ah Q. It is a display of strong will and self-restraint. There was a person in Chinese history named Han Xin54 who once suffered the humiliation of crawling between someone's legs. That was great forbearance. There is an ancient saying When an everyday person is humiliated, he will draw his sword to fight. It means that when a common person is humiliated, he will draw his sword to retaliate, will swear at others, or will throw punches at them. It's not...
Upon stopping the exchange master Lu declared to the crowd that I was most formidable and had a great ability with energy. This was a great compliment and the crowd began to respect my skills more than my size, even though I was not Chinese. I was very impressed with his skills and we parted as good friends. Although he and master Yang, as well as two other masters who I had compared with that morning commented together that I would be almost unbeatable if I studied Tai Chi to better refine my Chi-kung skills.
Our nanny kept making up stories to comfort us. Until one afternoon, when we were home playing, all of a sudden a group of people punched the door open. The leader was my parents' good friend. Once, when she was very ill, my mother gave her all the money she had to see the doctor and helped save her life. All our good friends, people who I thought loved us and cared about us had betrayed us. They turned their backs on us and virtually threw us to the wolves. Yet, this horrible, evil monster, this landlady, risked everything to protect us. Because of this, the concept of good things and bad things, right and wrong were completely destroyed in my mind.
Prior to the Japanese invasion, Beijing was more than the birthplace of the art, it was the center of Ba Gua and people came from all over the country to meet and practice with Beijingers. At that time Ba Gua groups within the city were divided into what was called North City Ba Gua and our group, South City Ba Gua. I met many good stylists in those years. I remember the well-liked and famous Sun Lu-Tang coming to practice and talk with my teacher and senior brothers. He was a good friend and of the same lineage as my teacher Liu Bin. Although I was quite young, I will never forget him telling me to practice hard and listen carefully to everything my master told me. In the Temple of Heaven Park I learned at the same spot as teachers before me. Cheng, Liu, and Sun Lu-Tang taught in that very park during the apex of Chinese martial arts in Beijing. I studied hard, learned every aspect of the system, and wrote down everything that I learned. I became a formally accepted inner door...
The second refers to the lotus root 'ou duan si lian'. Translated literally it means 'lotus cut silk connect', which actually means 'separated but still in each other's thoughts'. This idiom is used to express the sentiments felt when a couple are separated but still remain in each other's thoughts. In Wuhan they say when friends or lovers are together they should eat lotus soup because when you cut lotus and pull the sections apart you get these silk-like filaments that are still connected - in the same way that friendships and relationships affect us for life even though people may move far apart. I have also heard that the Chinese words for lotus root and the expression
During his workshop days in Shanghai he was constantly challenged by martial artists using different channels and excuses. Master Feng always practiced the restraint of To the Point . The martial artists in Shanghai all acknowledged very high respect for Master Feng's martial art and martial art ethics. He developed many friendships in Shanghai.
After the Cultural Revolution, I didn't trust people any more. So-called good friends turned out to be the ones who wanted to take your life. So-called evil people turned out to be your angels. What an upside down world I didn't even trust my parents. In my mind, my mother had simply abandoned her four little bananas.
Later, in my teens, I also befriended my neighbour who is now almost 80 years old and still a dear and very good friend. She has what she calls 'deck talks' in good weather. This means we will sit outside on her screened-in porch and listen to each other's hearts, though to be fair I would say she has listened a lot more than I. She has seen inside the walls of my heart and still
In 1 970, the Chinese government started to bring jack some of the old skills and Wushu was one of them. Suddenly it becamea respected skiil. The Chinese government began a searchfor talented young people to be representatives of the Wushu Athletic skill. This was also a time of political change. China had finished their relationship with Russia and for the first time, was starting to have a relationship with America. Zhou En Lai started to promote Ping Pong as a way of increasing friendship with America. This what they called the small ball rotating the big ball. Zhao answered, The only thing I would like is friendship between China and Japan. When he returned home, Deng
In 1993 a friend of mine talked me into going to my first Qigong class in Norwich. I was quite sceptical about all the new age movements and fashions that were doing the rounds, but friendship is very important to me so I trailed behind her to meet Sifu Julian Wilde and began studying Wild Goose Qigong.
A friend recently sent me a note, that said, Don't marry for love. Look at what you want out of a relationship and look closely at the person you are intending to marry. Do you have the same beliefs and same principles morally I think we should apply the same thoughts to our search for skill and a teacher in the martial and internal arts. Is your teacher going to be able to nurture not only your physical but guide you in other ways as well Are you going to be able to support your teacher and class with a good attitude and sincerity and respect If your teacher asks you to do something, will you keep your word If you can show your respect and your loyalty, then there is no doubt the right teacher will trust you and they will teach you whatever they know. A good teacher shares the good food with good friends
I took what the master said to heart. Then, in my meditations I recalled each of the people I knew had hurt me by name and I forgave each one of them by name. I no longer blamed them. I realized now that the former friends who had turned their backs on us had little choice. If they'd helped us they would have suffered the same fate. I forgave them and later on we were able to renew our friendships.
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